Situation: you are a foreign national residing in the Philippines with your Filipina wife and two kids. You believe you have a loving wife and adorable kids and expect a peaceful life ahead. You and your wife make utmost efforts to provide the best to your kids and invest in a convenient future. But one day you come back home and see a hand-written noticed from your wife stating her decision to leave you for another man. You first get shocked, then devastated and then enraged over the most disguised marital betrayal of your life. You look around for the kids and learned that your loss includes your children. You are on the verge of nervous break down and call up your lawyer for the help.
How often does it happen? Not very often, but it does happen in the Philippines. Does it happen with foreigners only? It happens with foreigners as well as with Filipino husbands. One must wonder what are the causes behind such seemingly selfish and unfaithful decisions many Filipinas make. In my opinion, causes are multiple and only few justify them.
Lack of Attention
Filipinas are very loving towards their husbands and expect to receive it in the same measure. Many marriages fall apart not due to lack of love but lack of attention of husband to wife. When men prefer to pay more attention to their jobs etc. than their wives, that effectively initiates marital break down. Especially a Filipina wife expects plenty of attention and care from her husband. She takes care of house and families during the day, hoping that her husband will be pleased to see her efforts on his return in the evening and will shower the deserving love and care over her. When the husband fails to pay attention to wife on regular basis, some Filipinas begin to look around for attention. Some turn to MEN around their immediate social circles and some get on social networks to sate their natural instincts. While many men will see it as wife being unfaithful, few men will sit down and listen to the concerns and disappointments of the wife.
Absence of Children
What could be a bigger proof of spousal commitment than having children out of a relationship? While making a woman mother of your children is an ultimate sign of the highest respect you have for her, it also sends a message of the woman being an essential part of your future life. Many foreigners abstain from having children with their Filipina wives, which sends out a negative message as she being a temporary option of her husband. Filipinas absolutely love children and yearn to have them. They would rather be with a man who gives them children than a man who limits them to a sleeping partner. Having a baby with your Filipina wife is a quickest way to shoot down all her future concerns.
You being Unfaithful Yourself
This is the most damaging of all. Your Filipina wife trusts that you will not share bed with any other woman than your wife. You enjoy her trust no matter wherever you go and whoever you meet. But when she learns of you compromising her trust, it leaves her disgusted and shattered. Her immediate response may be crying, questioning your love for her and asking friends for advice. If she continues to find you cheating on her, she will see herself inferior, unwanted and FOOL. Some Filipinas will resort to seeking separation from their hubby while rest will follow in husband’s footsteps and go on an unfaithful spree.
Filipinas tend to be more loving and romantic than women in other parts of the world. Ample love and care along with faithfulness and long-term future prospects are three easy-to-offer aspects that ensures you never get to to see the flip side of Filipinas.